My daughter just turned two so this is the first holiday season she’ll be actively participating in. She’s still learning the concept of sharing, as in, why exactly am I supposed to share my toys? But I’ve already seen her sense of pride when she does a small act of kindness, like giving her father his glasses first thing in the morning so he can see. She likes to be helpful, she likes the praise she gets when she is-- it feels good.
I’m going to take advantage of this holiday season to teach her more about giving. I’m going to have her make cards or pictures for her family members. We’ll keep it simple, just crayons and stickers. On Christmas, when she gives them out, I’m sure that the reaction on her aunts and uncles and grandparents faces, followed by the exuberant thank you’s, and the swarms of hugs and kisses to follow, will help her to learn that giving feels good.
Children at very young ages see themsleves as the only person in the world. It is very difficult for them to share!
Perhaps it would help if the child had two alike items.
One for me, one for my friend concept. Your child has to precieve herself in the world before she can precieve others.
Children also go through different developemental levels of play. This takes years to become established. Keep up the good work!
My daughter is 20 months old and it seems that her favorite word is "MINE". This doesn't earn her many friends at the playground...where she points to everything from slides to sandbox toys and yells 'MINE, MINE, MINE'.
I'm going to take your advice. I might even teach her the word 'OURS'. :)
I really like your plan for your daughter's card-making business! I think for toddlers the physical reinforcement of hugs and such help cement lots of lessons...but especially tough ones like toy-sharing. :-)
tj thats a good idea,i know i had a difficult time with my middle child with sharing.but my 4 year old was diffrent she would share evrything even her food.it is good to start teaching them while they are younger.you have the right idea.
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